I think we can all agree that we’re a bit stressed right now. There’s a global pandemic, human rights are at stake for multiple groups and we have murder hornets. Freaking murder hornets. AND IT’S ONLY JUNE.
As an empath, I feel emotions much harder than others. Many people think it’s one of my best qualities, which I would agree, but sometimes it can be overwhelming. It can easily make me feel down in the dumps some days or so mad for people who aren’t getting treated right that I’m just mad in general.
That’s why during this time I’ve taken to finding things that allow me to destress. Simple things that don’t require a lot of work but can make me feel a bit better when the world starts to fall around me.
1. Light a Candle
Candles are a beautiful thing. And if you get a bunch of those things in one area, turn the lights off, maybe grab a good book or just lay down in your bed, take a bath with them — WOW. A game-changer.
I get my favorite candles from Target or Joann’s (cozy nights from Target is my favorite). I’m really into earthy scents. Nothing too smelly or too crazy because my allergies will go crazy and that kind of defeats the point of relaxing if I’m sneezing 8 times in a row.
2. Do Some Yoga
I say yoga but this can be any kind of physical activity that helps you destress. I like yoga because I like the feeling it gives me by allowing me to find my center, stretch out my body, and still get a good workout. This doesn’t even have to be that long of a time. I’m going to start trying to do at least 10 minutes a day of it.
My favorite yoga channel is Yoga With Adriene. She has all kinds of videos. Like any kind of video you can think of, from yoga for anxiety to yoga for skateboarders. She’s super sweet and her voice is really soothing. It also shows that she truly cares about not only your physical health but your mental health as well.
As a writer, this one is near and dear for my heart. I think we can all remember when we were kids and wrote a diary. I don’t know why most of us stop but it’s something that many therapists say is super helpful in getting your thoughts down, no matter how crazy or silly they sound.
I try to keep my journal by my bedside or in my office that way I can grab it when I’m feeling some type of way. Your journal is your own by the way so make it that way. Sometimes I write actual entries but other times I’ll write poetry, draw a little bit or write down lists to kind of pull my life together a bit.
4. Make A List
Speaking of lists, if you’ve never truly used them, they’re a great way to feel like you have some sort of control over what is happening around you. This can be a to-do list, a goal list, or even a grocery list. I don’t know about you, but there’s something so beautiful about making a list and then crossing things off as you go. Kind of like a “Hell yeah! My life is not as much as a dumpster fire like I think!”
Lists are truly powerful. I mean, you’re reading one right now. And many studies have found that lists usually make people more productive, have better mental energy and lead them to live a more meaningful day, week, or year.
5. Have a Me Day
Think real hard about the last time you took a day to yourself. I mean a real day TO YOURSELF. Not with your kids in the background. Not with your hubby/partner tagging along. I mean all by yourself, a full 8 hours (or longer if you’re lucky) day to yourself.
A day to yourself, and for yourself, can be truly magical. Make it a day where you don’t work, you do your best not to worry, and you do nice things for yourself.
You could start the morning with mirror affirmations. Tell yourself what you like about yourself. Then get dressed the way you want. Then go do what you want. Doesn’t matter the time, the place, the day. You go and do it for you.
These are just 5 ideas that I have and use but I would love to hear from you guys. What are some ways you guys like to destress? Have any amazing candles I need to get? Let me know!
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